Dance of death. Starting over ; What men and women expect out of marriage ; Knowing when to call it quits ; Choosing the right lawyer ; When to run, not walk, out of a lawyer's office ; Mediation ; Clients from Hell ; Pendente lite ; The Wildenstein case ; Fear, rage, blame--how to ruin a good divorce -- The equality myth. Family court and supreme court ; Voices from the bench ; The gender equality myth ; Separate and commingled funds ; Grounds for divorce ; "Fair" is a four-letter word -- Children. Custody and child support ; Child abuse ; Child abduction -- History of love, marriage, and divorce. Then and now ; Marital rape and crime of passion -- Happily ever after. Preparing for the end in the beginning ; Will the real me please stand up?.